It’s not always the best feeling in the world whenever you find out that your boyfriend, the love of your life, doesn’t really have true or sincere romantic feelings with you.
You think that you are in a happy and healthy relationship with someone who loves you deeply. And yet, things aren’t as they seem. Of course, you would always want the person you love to be just as in love with you.
You are deserving of that kind of love and nothing less. However, that isn’t always going to be the case. The universe isn’t always going to be on your side even when it comes to love and romance.
It’s still very much possible for you to end up in a relationship with someone who isn’t truly in love with you. It’s still very much possible that you end up in a relationship with someone who is merely choosing to settle for being with you.
And that’s never a situation that you want to be a part of. But how can you tell if your partner is only settling or if they’re genuinely in love with you?
Well, according to the advice of relationship scientists and experts, it’s very much possible for you to tell whether someone is merely settling for you or not.
You just have to be vigilant enough to stay mindful of the many signs and red flags that that might truly be the case. It’s all a matter of making sure that you educate yourself on the signs and that you stay truly aware of the things that are going on in your relationship.
Not a lot of people might know this, but the truth is that it requires so much energy and effort to actually just “settle” for someone in a relationship.
Weirdly enough, settling requires a lot of work. Think about it for a second. You have to constantly be putting on a fake smile. You always have to be wearing some kind of mask to hide how you truly feel.
It requires so much attention to detail to make sure that you aren’t getting caught in your lie. That can be very exhausting and emotionally compromising.
If you have a partner who is just faking their love for you, then think about how much work goes into that. They always have to try to be emulating what you do to them.
But it all feels so forced. It’s all so unnatural and inorganic. It’s all so weird and difficult. As if relationships in themselves aren’t difficult enough even when the love is real. It becomes infinitely harder whenever one person is only faking the love.
It’s always going to require a lot of energy to make a relationship work. But the love in a genuine relationship should always be constant. When you have to “force’ a love, then that’s just a lot of extra energy and effort.
And that’s definitely not something that most people are capable of providing to a relationship. That is why if you realize that your partner is just settling for you, you have to call them out on it. You have to speak up.
You have to make sure that you don’t let things escalate any further or else you will both end up unhappy and disappointed with the state of your faux romance. If you notice the following signs in your man, then it’s likely that he’s only faking his love for you and he’s just settling.
1. He doesn’t really express a deep interest in any part of your life.
He doesn’t really try to get to know you better. He doesn’t really show to you that he’s invested in your life in any way.
2. He doesn’t make you feel like he’s a partner you can count on.
Instead of making it feel like you have someone you can always rely on, he rarely ever shows up for you. He doesn’t deliver whenever you expect him to.
3. He always acts so critically of the way you behave.
He acts overly critical of the way that you behave to the point that you always feel like he’s judging you for something.
4. He only connects with you whenever you have sex.
The only time you ever feel a real connection with him is when you’re having sex. Otherwise, you’re just practically a blank wall to him.
5. He doesn’t really make plans for your relationship.
He doesn’t show any real concern over the future of your relationship. He never really takes the initiative to plan things for the two of you.
6. He makes you feel underappreciated and undervalued.
He never does anything to make you feel like he appreciates everything that you do for him. He’s just always coasting and acting on his own.
7. He doesn’t give you a safe space to express yourself in your relationship.
He doesn’t really give you the freedom to express yourself in a free and open manner.